Choosing the Right Long Term Care Facility
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Melanie Benjamin and her father, Lee Miller Another overarching theme was the timing of a move. Many families shared with me that they had waited too long to move their parents, which robbed them of the chance to grow roots in their new living situation, participate in the activities and make lasting friendships. If someone can’t participate, everything is going to feel very foreign. Mary Novaria, 62, of Evergreen, Colorado, is the eldest of three siblings. Her father died years before her mother, who was an Episcopal priest. When her mom began to the children moved her to a senior living facility that was 10 minutes from Novaria’s house , so that she could be there frequently. When her health spiraled, they needed to move her again to an assisted living facility , and her mother was too ill and withdrawn to form bonds with the residents. Mary Novaria with her mom, Ruth McAleer “I wish we’d moved her to a continuing care facility in the first place so that she could have made friends and had multiple options for activities,” Novaria says. “Instead, it was like having a child at a brand-new school when everyone already has their cliques.”
Choosing the Right Long-Term Care Facility
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Ridofranz/Getty Images My sisters and I were fortunate when it came to my parents’ last chapter. Before my father’s Alzheimer’s became obvious to all but my mother, they moved from the West Coast and selected a senior living facility, with step -up care, to be near their three daughters. The facility had a memory care unit, which allowed my parents to seamlessly stay in the same place, even as my father began slipping away. While our situation was idyllic, life doesn’t work that neatly for all families. There are many more stories of frustration and despair, stories of older parents unwilling to leave their home , and grown children scrambling to figure out the appropriate next caregiving steps while working and parenting their own children. One friend recently told me that her 91-year-old parents finally sold their home . But they were unable to part with most of their possessions , so they moved into a condo because they wanted to “think about what made sense next.” That friend is ready to tear out her hair. Get instant access to members-only products and hundreds of discounts, a free second membership, and a subscription to AARP the Magazine.Looking at options
So many factors go into the decision around choosing the right living situation for older parents. And when . For those who have ruled out home health care or living with family members, there are a bewildering number of factors in choosing a senior facility. And while there are no one-size fits all solutions, there are important questions to ask that can help shortcut the decision-making process for all involved. Some are as basic as the size of the facility and number of beds, the cost structure and the proximity to a hospital and family. Others are more subtle, requiring observations. Such as: How much light does the facility or the room get? Do the residents seem happy and engaged? Amenities like transportation services for appointments or the existence of a nurse on staff for things like changing bandages can make the difference in a loved one’s well-being and the family’s peace of mind. Dining services and healthy food options are as important as the policy on visiting hours. “How does it smell?” was a piece of advice I got from more than one person, suggesting that a pervasive smell of urine might require a deeper look. One of the most universal pieces of advice was to ask questions about continuing care when you are looking at facilities. Many people regretted not having their loved one in a facility where they could “step up” to more comprehensive care, including nursing home care with hospice. Several people I interviewed shared the pain of both the family and loved one in having to make a transition to a new situation while they were ill or even dying. Flowers & Gifts 25% off sitewide and 30% off select items See more Flowers & Gifts offers > Author Melanie Benjamin, 58, from Williamsburg, Virginia, wishes she had pushed her father harder to consider a place near her or her brother.Instead, she found herself traveling back to Indianapolis frequently as he began to quickly fail. “The world shrinks very quickly, and your parent’s friends and community suddenly aren’t there anymore,” Benjamin says. “In the balance between elderly parents and their friends, it’s probably more important to be near family who can arrange care, show up and keep an eye on you.” Melanie Benjamin and her father, Lee Miller Another overarching theme was the timing of a move. Many families shared with me that they had waited too long to move their parents, which robbed them of the chance to grow roots in their new living situation, participate in the activities and make lasting friendships. If someone can’t participate, everything is going to feel very foreign. Mary Novaria, 62, of Evergreen, Colorado, is the eldest of three siblings. Her father died years before her mother, who was an Episcopal priest. When her mom began to the children moved her to a senior living facility that was 10 minutes from Novaria’s house , so that she could be there frequently. When her health spiraled, they needed to move her again to an assisted living facility , and her mother was too ill and withdrawn to form bonds with the residents. Mary Novaria with her mom, Ruth McAleer “I wish we’d moved her to a continuing care facility in the first place so that she could have made friends and had multiple options for activities,” Novaria says. “Instead, it was like having a child at a brand-new school when everyone already has their cliques.”