TikTok Woman Shows Husband Weaponizing Incompetence
<br>TikTok Woman Shows Husband Weaponizing IncompetenceSkip To Content<br><br><br> <br>lol Badge Feed<br>win Badge Feed<br>trending Badge Feed<br><img src="data:image/svg+xml;base64,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" alt="Viral badge"/>Posted on Jan 14, 2022<h1 class="headline_title__NbsAE embed-headline-title">This Woman's Viral Argument With Her Husband Over Laundry Has Started A Conversation About Ableism In Relationships</h1>"If the only thing your partner is contributing to your relationship is their physical presence, it’s not enough."<br><img alt="Shelby Heinrich" height="" loading="eager" fetchpriority="auto" src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2019-04/10/16/user_images/buzzfeed-prod-web-01/shelbyheinrich-v2-8770-1554926445-0_large.jpg?downsize=60:*&output-format=jpg&output-quality=auto" width=""/>by Shelby Heinrich Staff<br>Facebook<br>Pinterest<br>Twitter<br>Mail<br>Link <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie is a 31-year-old disability advocate and student from the Midwest who's been "disabled to some extent [her] entire life." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-17412-1642117436-3.png?downsize=700%3A%2A&output-quality=auto&output-format=auto" alt="A closeup of Bonnie who has long dark and wavy hair and is wearing a flower crown" class="subbuzz__media-image--static subbuzz-picture js-subbuzz__media js-pinnable" width="625" height="679" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> She told , "I was born with several genetic disorders, but some of the signs and symptoms of those disorders did not present until around age 10, and some of them didn't become severely disabling until my late teens and early 20s. I live with a connective tissue disorder, multiple neurological conditions, a brain injury, and many other comorbidities that relate to those conditions." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-7025-1642115667-44.png?downsize=700%3A%2A&output-quality=auto&output-format=auto" alt="Bonnie wearing a beret and a bright belted dress as she stands outside of a house" class="subbuzz__media-image--static subbuzz-picture js-subbuzz__media js-pinnable" width="625" height="715" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> "My disabilities affect every system of my body and every facet of my life, but I do not define myself solely by them." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7503-1642115730-1.png?downsize=700%3A%2A&output-quality=auto&output-format=auto" alt="Bonnie posing for a photo on a walking path in the words while wearing a tea-length dress and standing next to her motorized walker" class="subbuzz__media-image--static subbuzz-picture js-subbuzz__media js-pinnable" width="625" height="673" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie is also married, and she recently went viral on TikTok for sharing the ongoing conflict she's had with her husband about his "inability" to do laundry correctly: </h2> <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> In the video, Bonnie explains that "for the millionth time," she's had to teach her 33-year-old husband how to do their laundry properly. Because every time he does it, he "totally bungles it" and claims he just can't do laundry. "Mind you, he can do it," Bonnie says in the video. "He's a perfect execution engineer." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16780-1642101571-7.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16780-1642101571-7.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16780-1642101571-7.png" data-crop="182.09" data-mobile-crop="182.09" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie further explains that years ago, she suggested they put up a whiteboard with laundry instructions, so her husband could have a guide for how to do it. For years, he ignored that idea, until recently, when their marriage counselor suggested the exact same thing. Meanwhile, Bonnie still had to tell him exactly what to write on the whiteboard, even though she's been telling him the same thing over and over for years. </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6538-1642101775-18.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6538-1642101775-18.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6538-1642101775-18.png" data-crop="178.89" data-mobile-crop="178.89" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> She closes the video by asking, "Do I have a right to be annoyed and angry that it took him this long to do it, and then as soon as someone else suggests it, he falls all over himself and does it, and then wants a cookie for doing it?" </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16807-1642102377-3.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16807-1642102377-3.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-16807-1642102377-3.png" data-crop="183.40" data-mobile-crop="183.40" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie's TikTok inspired thousands of comments, and many people agreed that, yes, Bonnie DOES have a right to be upset: </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6978-1642102605-15.jpg" alt="One person said, &quot;he didn&#x27;t do it so you would do it. he know&#x27;s you&#x27;re at the end of your tether so now he does it&quot;" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="One person said, &quot;he didn&#x27;t do it so you would do it. he know&#x27;s you&#x27;re at the end of your tether so now he does it&quot;" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6978-1642102605-15.jpg" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6978-1642102605-15.jpg?resize=990:*" data-crop="26.72" data-mobile-crop="26.67" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5317-1642102620-2.jpg" alt="Another said, &quot;He&#x27;s doing it on purpose and watching this video makes me want to divorce him even though I am not married to him&quot;" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="Another said, &quot;He&#x27;s doing it on purpose and watching this video makes me want to divorce him even though I am not married to him&quot;" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5317-1642102620-2.jpg" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5317-1642102620-2.jpg?resize=990:*" data-crop="23.36" data-mobile-crop="23.43" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6992-1642102634-1.jpg" alt="One person commented men will say &quot;i love your energy&quot; and drain it" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="One person commented men will say &quot;i love your energy&quot; and drain it" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6992-1642102634-1.jpg" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-6992-1642102634-1.jpg?resize=990:*" data-crop="23.36" data-mobile-crop="23.43" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> And some even went so far as to call her husband's antics a perfect example of "weaponized incompetence": </h2> *For those who don't know, weaponized incompetence is a concept that's been gaining traction on TikTok in the last few years. It refers to when someone pretends to not know how to do a task, or purposely does it wrong, so that someone else will do it for them instead. <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6617-1642103608-40.jpg" alt="One person said, nta, perfect example of weaponized incompetence" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="One person said, nta, perfect example of weaponized incompetence" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6617-1642103608-40.jpg" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-6617-1642103608-40.jpg?resize=990:*" data-crop="22.88" data-mobile-crop="22.83" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5343-1642103623-14.jpg" alt="This comment saus &quot;excuse me but how was your counselor not calling out the weaponized incompetence, even you having to give him instructions and list out these things&quot;" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="This comment saus &quot;excuse me but how was your counselor not calling out the weaponized incompetence, even you having to give him instructions and list out these things&quot;" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5343-1642103623-14.jpg" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/19/asset/6101eab3fcf4/sub-buzz-5343-1642103623-14.jpg?resize=990:*" data-crop="31.04" data-mobile-crop="31.01" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via tiktok.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie told that she decided to share the video during a time of great "revelation" in her life: "As a disabled partner, I realized that I'd been accepting the bare minimum (and sometimes less than that) due to both internalized and external ableism. It's been a very rough six or seven years medically for me, and my ability levels have changed a lot. Toss in a few brain surgeries, multiple abdominal and spine surgeries, almost dying twice, heaps of stress, and ableist people telling me I was just 'lucky' he didn’t leave me when it got bad, and I had the perfect recipe for some pretty hefty ableist guilt." </h2> <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> "I felt so badly for 'putting him through' all of that fear, exhaustion, and stress of watching me suffer, and all the unknowns, that I felt like I had to 'make up' for it." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/27b5eb9b2d7b/sub-buzz-805-1642116016-20.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/27b5eb9b2d7b/sub-buzz-805-1642116016-20.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/27b5eb9b2d7b/sub-buzz-805-1642116016-20.png?resize=990:1241" data-crop="125.44" data-mobile-crop="125.35" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> "So, I did. I bent over backwards trying to make things as easy as possible for my husband. Even in my hardest moments — traveling multiple times for life-saving surgeries — I handled everything. I felt like I needed to compensate for being disabled, to compensate for the stress, to compensate for him not getting to do 'normal couple' things. Most couples took vacations; we travelled for surgeries." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7503-1642116097-3.png" alt="Bonnie poses for a photo in the woods in the fall" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="Bonnie poses for a photo in the woods in the fall" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7503-1642116097-3.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7503-1642116097-3.png?resize=990:1087" data-crop="109.76" data-mobile-crop="109.80" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> And after years of overcompensation, Bonnie told she finally realized how fruitless it was. "It hit me one day just how much I was doing, and it hit me how little he noticed what I was doing. I was killing myself to keep him comfortable, when my comfort had never been considered. So, I started asking for help (something I have GREAT difficulty doing). And when I asked for help, I didn’t get any." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/anigif_sub-buzz-7036-1642116389-22_preview.gif?output-quality=auto&output-format=auto&downsize=360:*" alt="A woman saying &quot;I need your help&quot;" class="img-nojs xs-block"/> Starz "I was met with excuses and 'I don’t knows' far too often. I was tired of being the responsible one. I was tired of always being switched 'on.' So, mostly out of frustration, but also because I was doubting myself, I shared that video. I was looking for validation, but I was also looking for other partners to commiserate with."<br /> <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> In regard to the "weaponized incompetence" comments, Bonnie said, "I mostly agree. Obviously for us, and our relationship, it goes a little deeper, though. I explained in subsequent videos that it is never just about the laundry. It’s about seeing and anticipating your partner’s needs. It’s about seeing that your partner is struggling, knowing they need help because they’ve asked for it, and still doing nothing. It’s about putting the burden on your partner to 'manage' you." </h2> "Things like weaponized incompetence are much more than the 'lazy husband' trope. Knowingly letting your partner struggle and hurt for your own comfort is awful. It’s selfish. And judging by the videos that have hundreds of millions of views on the subject on TikTok, it’s a BIG issue." <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> Bonnie told that her video also serves as an example of how disabled people often expect and/or accept less from their able-bodied partners, which "stems from society telling us we are worth less. We’re told necessities like medical devices, accessible spaces, and medical care are often 'too hard' or 'too expensive' to have. If we can’t work and can’t participate in capitalism like able-bodied people, then we’re a 'drain' that way too. We’re told that we're 'lucky' our partners stay when we become more ill (or we’re told we’re lucky we have them at all)." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-17386-1642116496-9.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-17386-1642116496-9.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/145e6f65c6fb/sub-buzz-17386-1642116496-9.png?resize=990:1231" data-crop="124.32" data-mobile-crop="124.34" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> "There should be no praise for staying with your sick partner," she said. "That’s part of the deal. I am in no way discounting the fact that having a sick partner is hard. It is, and there's time and space to talk about that too. But if the only thing your partner is contributing to your relationship is their physical presence, it’s not enough. I fooled myself into thinking it was." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-7064-1642116788-6.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-7064-1642116788-6.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/2f08dd6a1c66/sub-buzz-7064-1642116788-6.png?resize=990:1237" data-crop="124.96" data-mobile-crop="124.95" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> For anyone dealing with something similar in their own relationship, Bonnie had this advice: "Stop begging. Stop asking. Stop pleading. Stop giving away every little piece of yourself because you feel like you are worth less because of your physical ability. Your worth as a partner and as a person has NOTHING to do with your ability. You don’t have to 'make up' for who you are. Your disability is not an excuse to treat you as less-than... State your needs. Firmly. Don’t sugarcoat everything. Your partner is an adult — communicate with them accordingly." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/anigif_sub-buzz-7522-1642116850-26_preview.gif?output-quality=auto&output-format=auto&downsize=360:*" alt="A man saying &quot;Communication is key, guys&quot;" class="img-nojs xs-block"/> ABC <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> And finally, "If you’re a disabled partner reading this, you are worth it a thousand times over. Don’t accept less." </h2> <br><img src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7545-1642117318-1.png" alt="" class="xs-block"/> <br><img class="subbuzz__media-image subbuzz__media-image--deferred js-subbuzz__media js-progressive-image js-pinnable" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" alt="" data-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7545-1642117318-1.png" data-mobile-src="https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2022-01/13/23/asset/85912036805e/sub-buzz-7545-1642117318-1.png?resize=990:1132" data-crop="114.40" data-mobile-crop="114.34" data-span="1" data-bfa="@o:{ignore:[bfaBinder]};" > @bonniedoes / Via instagram.com <h2 class="subbuzz__header subbuzz__header--standard subbuzz__title "> You can follow Bonnie on TikTok and Instagram to follow her journey and see even more great content. </h2> <h2 class="share-bar_heading__Ku5eH">Share This Article</h2><br>Facebook<br>Pinterest<br>Twitter<br>Mail<br>Link